Sunday, April 17, 2016
 What a fantastic afternoon with 44 young ladies having etiquette and tea with me this past Saturday .It was as rewarding for them as it was for me.

  All dressed up, and ready to host the Young Ladies Tea Party at the Gov Lippit House, which is now an elegant museum ..  This beautiful and elegant mansion was constructed for him and his family back in 1863. This home is full of life and history . The house stayed in the family for four generations

My dear friends dropped off the mini scones, that will compliment the Tea Party. Chief Shawn prepared the delightful finger sandwiches and tea was served my grand daughters and a friend.

 It was a huge success. This was a wonderful beginning of Spring Teas!
Monday, April 4, 2016
This is a wonderful opportunity for young girls of any color! Join me!
Stages of Freedom presents this annual event, co-sponsored by Preserve Rhode Island, to provide young girls of color an opportunity to take tea together. Lady Estelle Barada, a Black Victorian re-enactor, uses taking tea to teach social graces and tea etiquette to young girls. The party is a part of a long tradition in the Black community of using tea parties to teach manners, social network and raise funds for important causes. The event is free, but registration is required.Visit to register and sponsor a girl to attend for only $20!
Friday, March 25, 2016

Program goals:
 To teach both children and young adults the fundamentals of social etiquette and dining skills.

Long term goals: 
To introduce etiquette to young girls and young women, ages 6 to 18 years old.
Also offer an extensive range of programs that include charm classes, beauty pageant training as well as etiquette classes.

 To establish a non-profit foundation that focuses on bringing etiquette to everyone across the city.

Program for 6 to 11-year old girls

 You are enjoying your meal with your family when it happens: a very loud child is throwing a very loud tantrum. It has been my questionable "joy" to observe that with each time I eat out that the dining habits of the younger set grows worse and worse. Sincerely, there are manners that even the youngest of children can learn.

Please and Thank You.
This is one of the simplest of manners to use and it is, in my opinion the one that is least used by the under-10 set. Setting a good example at home, insisting that they say "thank you" and "please" in the appropriate situations, both at home and abroad.

Sir and/or Ma’am. 
When addressing someone in authority over them, a younger person should always address them as Sir, if the person is male, or Ma’am if the person is female.
“Would you like a cookie?”
“Yes, Ma’am.’’

Dinning/Tea Etiquette.
Even the smallest of children can be taught to chew their food slowly and with lips closed. From personal experience I can tell you how disconcerting and off putting it can be to observe a child eating loudly, smacking their lips and making gobbling and slurping sounds.

 Sitting quietly at the table.

Children by their very nature are not designed to be quiet or still, therefore, expecting them to remain silent at the table is often not practical. However, insisting that the child stay seated, is.
 Once at the table, the child should be encouraged to ask for permission to leave the table, asking “May I be excused?” If the child is younger than 5, this may not be possible, but it is within all possibilities that this child learn to stay at the table until his or her parents tell them it is okay to get up.
 Allowing the child to stand on the seats in the restaurants, to run up and down the aisles as well as around the table is unacceptable, and should not be condoned at home.

Program for 12-18 years old girls:

At a time when young people spend more time with computers than with people,  this program offers social etiquette, communications skills, and table manners. They will learn such basic skills as introductions, common courtesies, telephone etiquette, and how to set a table.

 The program focuses on socialization and is designed to increase confidence and self-esteem. The girls will learn Proper Introductions, Correct Handshakes, Eye contact, Dining skills, Telephone Etiquette, Thank You Notes, Conversation skills, Posture, Interview skills, What to wear, Fashion Tips and so much more.
Wednesday, March 2, 2016
March is Women History Month, so I salute a great literary delight.
Elizabeth Barrett Browning (née Moulton-Barrett, (6 March 1806 – 29 June 1861) was one of the most prominent English poets of the Victorian era, popular in Britain and the United States during her lifetime.
Born in County Durham, the eldest of 12 children, Elizabeth Barrett wrote poetry from about the age of six. Her mother's collection of her poems forms one of the largest collections extant of juvenilia by any English writer. At 15 she became ill, suffering intense head and spinal pain for the rest of her life. Later in life she also developed lung problems, possibly tuberculosis. She took laudanum for the pain from an early age, which is likely to have contributed to her frail health.

In the 1830s Elizabeth was introduced to literary society through her cousin, John Kenyon. Her first adult collection of poems was published in 1838 and she wrote prolifically between 1841 and 1844, producing poetry, translation and prose.
Elizabeth's volume Poems (1844) brought her great success, attracting the admiration of the writer Robert Browning. Their correspondence, courtship and marriage were carried out in secret, for fear of her father's disapproval. Following the wedding she was indeed disinherited by her father. The couple moved to Italy in 1846, where she would live for the rest of her life. They had one son, Robert Barrett Browning, whom they called Pen. She died in Florence in 1861.
A collection of her last poems was published by her husband shortly after her death.

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

Saturday, February 13, 2016


The Friends of Hearthside cordially invites
you to be our guest as
Hearthside House Museum begins its 15th season on
Sunday, March 13, 2016. 
Please honor us with your presence as we celebrate
the important role of women during
Women’s History Month
during our first public tours this year.

Tours begin at 1:00 p.m. till 4:00 p.m.

Hope you’ll join us!

Monday, January 18, 2016

What is Life after retirement?-From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Retirement might coincide with important life changes; a retired worker might move to a new location, for example a retirement community, thereby having less frequent contact with their previous social context and adopting a new lifestyle. 
Often retirees volunteer for charities and other community organizations.

 Tourism is a common marker of retirement and for some becomes a way of life, such as for so-called grey nomads.
 Some retired people even choose to go and live in warmer climates in what is known as retirement migration.
It has been found that Americans have six lifestyle choices as they age: 
continuing to work full-time, continuing to work part-time, retiring from work and becoming engaged in a variety of leisure activities, retiring from work and becoming involved in a variety of recreational and leisure activities, retiring from work and later returning to work part-time, and retiring from work and later returning to work full-time.

 An important note to make from these lifestyle definitions are that four of the six involve working. America is facing an important demographic change in that the Baby Boomer generation is now reaching retirement age. This poses two challenges: whether there will be a sufficient number of skilled workers in the work force, and whether the current pension programs will be sufficient to support the growing number of retired people. 
 The reasons that some people choose to never retire, or to return to work after retiring include not only the difficulty of planning for retirement but also wages and fringe benefits, expenditure of physical and mental energy, production of goods and services, social interaction, and social status may interact to influence an individual’s work force participation decision.

Often retirees are called upon to care for grandchildren and occasionally aged parents. For many it gives them more time to devote to a hobby or sport such as golf or sailing.

 On the other hand, many retirees feel restless and suffer from depression as a result of their new situation. Although it is not scientifically possible to directly show that retirement either causes or contributes to depression, the newly retired are one of the most vulnerable societal groups when it comes to depression most likely due to confluence of increasing age and deteriorating health status.  

Retirement coincides with deterioration of one's health that correlates with increasing age and this likely plays a major role in increased rates of depression in retirees. Longitudinal and cross-sectional studies have shown that healthy elderly and retired people are as happy or happier and have an equal quality of life as they age as compared to younger employed adults, therefore retirement in and of itself is not likely to contribute to development of depression.

Many people in the later years of their lives, due to failing health, require assistance, sometimes in extremely expensive treatments – in some countries – being provided in a nursing home. Those who need care, but are not in need of constant assistance, may choose to live in a retirement home.

My life After Retirement-from Estelle T Barada

It is definitely a life changing experience. I feel I have time now to get to know myself. More time to spend in catering to what my needs are . It may sound selfish, but I spent most of my working life tending to others. I have worked hard ever since I was 15 years of age. 

 Always catering to others from the beginning of the day to the end. 

I do not plan to move from my lovely Victorian style apartment nor down size. I have  prepared my home for the time when I can truly enjoy it. Now I can.

 I can sleep in and get up when the sun comes up., enjoy long hours in the bath, invite family and friends to tea. I can now go for long walks and stop and smell the flowers. 

 I can travel and meet new friends and have more time with my previous social contacts, like my Red Hat Society friends, while adopting to my new lifestyle.

 I will volunteer some of my time to non- prophet organizations, like the historic Hearthside House 


and the Rhode Island Historical Society


I will enjoy more time to visit my grand children, but I will not become their caretaker. It is important for me to enjoy them on my time and give them the pleasure of my quality time.

I want to enjoy being with them, not them tolerate being with me,.

I have not retired because of bad health and I am grateful for that. I want this time to improve my health and to live a long healthy happy retired life. 

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

I have been given what we think is a late Victorian or early Edwardian dress. Not museum quality. But still quite interesting and I will be using it as a display piece for my new program.
It's made of linen and a mesh like material. It was given to me by a dear friend, Jen Cook
It is now on display in my parlor.
Can anyone help me on identifying this piece?.

  I'm thinking it is late 1870s natural form. There was probably an overskirt at one time
The dress form's chest is a bit larger so, I give it a lace collar to cover the opening, somewhat.

The bodice is quite low on the hip so I'm still inclined to think natural form. The beginning of natural form 1876 perhaps

   Accommodation for a small bustle.

 I would say 1876-1878. The militaristic aspect is very 1870's, but they had more of a diamond in the back and a much larger bustle. The more form fitted top is leaning to 1880. So, late 1870's is my guess.

Here is a good example of a similar dress.

Dress Date: 1878 Culture: American Medium: Silk Accession Number: 2009.300.6511a–c

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