The Outfit is complete!

Do you remember this beautiful bodice that I showed you a while back?
Well, I had a skirt made to wear with it. It took some time, but now it is complete.

Well worth the wait. I just love the flowers on the bustle. It is so feminine.
 This was custom made to my likings. I feel like Royalty.

The designer is a talented lady from "Seams Victorian."
Seams Victorian specialize in Victorian attire, unique ooak items and beautiful things for the home.

"I would like to thank Leanna for creating this outfit for me
and also making me look and feel beautiful!".

"Class and Breeding" of the Victorian-era women!

This is for those who aspired to appear as such, learned the womanly arts of proper housekeeping, dressing, deportment, meal preparation,entertaining, and family upkeep from a wide variety of publications.
These included manuals, guidebooks, pamphlets,magazines, and other periodicals.
This is what they learned. *Carry Yourself with Grace.
The beauties of the charming picture framed by one's dress are enhanced by moving with grace. To walk with style is rare enough, but when it comes to being able to sit down in a dress properly -- well, there are not many equal to that, I can tell you.

*Keep Your Arms from Going Astray.*
A question often comes up, not so easily answered:
What shall I do with my hands and arms?

Some ladies carry a fan. But you cannot always have one in your hands, so it is better to keep the arms pressed lightly against the sides in walking or sitting.
This position for the hands, although a little stiff at first, will soon become easy and graceful.

Ladies should never adopt the ungraceful habit of folding their arms or of placing them akimbo.

*Be Graceful in Your Manners. *
A lady should be quiet in her manners, natural and unassuming in her language, careful to wound no one's feelings, but giving generously and freely from the treasures of her pure mind to her friends.
She should scorn no one openly but have a gentle pity for the unfortunate, the inferior, and the ignorant, at the same time carrying herself with an innocence and single heartedness that disarm ill nature and win respect and love from all. Such a lady is a model for her sex,

the "bright particular star" on which men look with reference.The influence of such a woman is a power
for good that cannot be overestimated.

*Limit Your Observations.*
A boisterous, loud-talking man is disagreeable enough, but a woman who falls into the habit is almost unendurable.
Many times have we seen an inoffensive husband tucked completely out of sight by the superabundant flow of volubility proceeding from a wife, who, we like to believe, is by nature intended to be the gentler and restraining element.

*Be not Excessively Frank.*
Do not take pride in offensively expressing yourself on every occasion under the impression that you will be admired for your frankness.
Speaking one's mind is an extravagance, which has ruined many a person.

*Always Accept Apologies.*
Only ungenerous minds will not do so. If one is due from you, make it unhesitatingly.

When a "tale of woe" is poured into your ears, even though you cannot sympathize do not wound by appearing indifferent. True politeness decrees that you shall listen patiently and respond kindly.

*Laugh at the Appropriate Time.*
Don't laugh when a funny thing is being said until the climax is reached. Do not laugh at your own wit;
allow others to do that.

*Kiss Sparingly.*
Many times a contagious disease has been conveyed in a kiss.The kiss is a seal of pure and earnest love
and should never be exchanged, save between nearest and dearest friends and relatives.
Indeed, public sentiment and good taste decree that even among lovers it should not be so often indulged
in as to cause any regret on  the part of the lady should an engagement chance to be broken off.
Let promiscuous kissing, then, be consigned to the tomb of oblivion.

*Use Tact When Admonishment is Necessary.*
Tact is needed in a friend to show us our weaknesses; also with employers and parents.
How many do harm instead of good in their manner of rebuking, sounding instead of rousing the self-respect
of those they reprimand!

*Refrain from Eyeing Over Other Women.*
Few observant persons can have failed to notice the manner in which one woman,who is not perfectly well bred or perfectly kind hearted, will eye over another woman,whom she thinks is not in such good society and,
above all, not at the time being in so costly a dress as she herself is in.
Who cannot recall hundreds of instances of that sweep of the eye, which takes in a glance the whole woman and what she has on from to-knot to shoe-tie. It is done in an instant.No other evidence than this eyeing is
needed that a woman, whatever be her birth or breeding, has a small and vulgar soul.

*Treat Enemies Kindly.*
If you have an enemy and an opportunity occurs to benefit the person in matters great great or small,
do good service without hesitation.
If you would know what it is to feel noble and strong within yourself, do this secretly and keep it secret.
A person who can act thus, will soon feel at ease anywhere.
If enemies meet at a friend's house, lay aside all appearance of animosity while there and meet on courteous terms.

*Greet Friends with Discretion.*
A lady does not call out to friends or inquire after their health in a boisterous fashion.
Ladies do not rush up to each other and kiss effusively. It is a foolish practice for ladies to kiss each other every time they meet, particularly on the street.
It is positively vulgar; a refined woman shrinks from any act that makes her conspicuous.
Such practice belongs rather to the period of "gush" natural to very young girls and should be discouraged on physiological grounds, if no other.

Want to Learn More About Victorian Woman's Lives?
Check out these Links

* Dressing the Victorian Lady from the 1850's
* Posture and Kindred Signs Express Existing Sexual States

* List of Victorian Websites

Victorian Life, It was not all glorious!

 I have a passion for the Victorian fashions and lifestyles of the era, but
there was a part of Victorian Life that most people do not see or did not talk about.
We have this picture of Victorian life as grandeur and position, fancy and elaborate clothes, riches and style and grace.
Well, like everything, there is two sides to the story.
It was not all glorious for the regular working class like you and me. It was hard, long hours a day, low wages, back breaking work, sickness and down right inhuman.
We must take a look at this to have balance and to educate ourselves on the era of our passion.

As Sugar Plums Dance In Your Head!

Music to sooth the savage beast

Enjoy these beautiful pictures as the music plays.

This will be your  short break at the theatre.
Relax for just a minute! 

The Belle Of The Ball

It was a splendid evening of dancing and music. The uniformed men were so polite and handsome. The women were dressed in breath taking gowns. You felt like you were in air as you danced around the room. Such grandeur.I was in my glory!

Find more photos like this on The True Victorian/Edwardian

My First Ball!

Saturday evening I will be attending my first Civil War Ball.
Oh my, what will I wear?
One must look their best for this type of event.
I want to be the Belle of the Ball.
After going over my reenactment outfits I came across my first gown I bought on ebay.
I wore this gown only once to entertain my Red Hat Society friends. I did not own a hoop skirt at that time, so it didn't have the true ballroom gown look. It had no flounce nor flair.
I will be wearing the proper undergarment to enhance the elegance of the gown.I will not wear a hat. Lot's of flowers in the hair, I think.
"I will make a grand entrance!"
Ball Room Etiquette:
Ladies and gentlemen were on their best behavior in the ballroom. Manners were more formal, clothing was finer, and bows were deeper.

A lady or gentleman should finish their toilet before entering the room for dancing, as it is indecorous in either to be drawing on their gloves, or brushing their hair. Finish your toilet in the dressing rooms.

Always recognize the lady or gentleman, or the director of ceremonies with becoming politeness: a salute or bow is sufficient.

A lady should always have an easy, becoming and graceful movement while engaged in a quadrille or promenade. It is more pleasing to the gentleman.

A lady should never engage herself for more than the following set, unless by the consent of the gentleman who accompanies her. It is very impolite and insulting in either lady or gentleman while dancing in quadrille, to mar the pleasure of others by galloping around or inside the next set.

If a gentleman, without proper introduction, should ask a lady with whom he is not acquainted to dance or promenade, the lady should positively refuse.

Recollect, the desire of imparting pleasure, especially to the ladies, is one of the essential qualifications of a gentleman.

Ladies should not be too hasty in filling their program on their entrance to the ball room, as they may have cause for regret should a friend happen to enter.

An introduction in a public ball room must be understood by the gentleman to be for that evening only, after which the acquaintanceship ceases, unless the lady chooses to recognize it at any further time or place.

A lady should not attend a public ball without an escort, nor should she promenade the ball room alone; in fact, no lady should be left unattended.

Designed by Leanna Tokarz Reed

I purchased this beautiful hand made bodice from SEAMS VICTORIAN
The designer is Leanna Tokarz Reed from Spokane, WA.
Now the beautiful skirt for this bodice is in production now.
Here is the skirt in the making. 
I can't wait to see them together. 
It is going to have a bustle in the back

Victorian Valentine's Gift Swap

I belong to a wonderful group of Victorians called "The Complete Victorian".
We all have a passion for the things of the past. We spent time sharing great Victorian stories, finds and crafts. At times we gift swap with each other. I absolutely love Victorian Gift Swaps. We just had a Victorian Valentines Swap. I received some lovely treasures that I immediately put to use in my tea Salon.

 First I got this cute shopping bag with little girls playing dress up. My Victorian friend knows how I love dressing up. It is hanging on the wall for all to see and enjoy.

Second, I received a beautiful Victorian necklace, lovely note and note pad.
It is just the little things that make the swap special. I love receiving gifts in the mail from my Victorian friends. I know they had my in mind because of the thought they use to send such enjoyable gifts..
I hope you have friends like these. "We share good old fashion friendship!"

A Old Fashion Friendship.

In today's times it is very hard to enjoy an afternoon the old fashion way, with good friends and relax in a stress free atmosphere.
I had that wonderful afternoon spent with such supportive friends and great conversation. One would not have asked for a well spent, old fashion, step back in time

As my guest arrived, we posed graciously for our portrait to be taken,
which we greatly enjoy.
We obviously dress for the occasion and love to set the stage for our journey back in time.

We then went into the tea room to partake of a plentiful display of tea treats and conversation.  The table was set for my guest to enjoy until their hearts content.  It made for a true Victorian Valentine's feast.

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